Coaching isn't all about technique, mechanics and course management. A lot of what we do or should do on a daily basis is help our players with their perspective of who they are, what they do and why they do it. We need to support our player's emotional intelligence, both in and out of golf. What is emotional intelligence? If every serious player could sit down and answer the following questions it would be very helpful to their understanding of their relationship to the game of golf. Here are the questions:
- What are the three most important things you can tell me about who you are? (Do you bring them with you to the golf course?)
- What do you love to do? If golf was one of the answers, make sure you include two others.
- Why do you play golf? Give me three reasons? Remember when things get tough.
- Who do you influence on a daily basis? Who influences you on a daily basis?
- Why do you consider your closest friends special? What is it about you that they appreciate?
- What would you consider to be the most important core value to you? (Your core values say a lot about who you are and guide you in your decision making on and off the course).
- How important are other people's opinion of you? Who's opinion matters most? Who's opinion can you control?
- When you picture yourself in five years, what will life be like?
- What do you consider the definition of success to be? Have you felt it?
- Is golf the most important thing in life? If not, where does it rank? Be honest!
Players get lost. By that I mean, no matter what the talent level or the dedication, things can get in the way of greatness. For some, it is injuries, while for others it is personal problems. There are a million reasons to get off track and something as simple as a swing change can do it. If a golfer knows who she is and what is important to her, she can more easily right the ship and continue to make progress toward her goals. However, if she doesn't understand why she is playing the game or why success is important to her or even what she would call success, she will have a tough time finding the will to continue to put forth the effort and attitude needed to beat top level players.
|When you get to the course early, you will catch a lot of beautiful sunrises!|
The path to success in golf must be among the toughest in all of sports. The "tour" is a tough club to join. The travel is endless. There is no guaranteed salary. There are no teammates to hold you up when you get down. You are measured daily against par and your fellow competitors. With all of the challenges you must face to reach the highest competition in golf, it is important to figure out how to enjoy the journey. To face results as the only factor of success will make the beautiful sunrises meaningless. To see your playing partners as only competitors will diminish the camaraderie you will feel with your fellow pros. To see practice as a means to an end will take away the satisfaction of a hard day's work. The true joy of golf lies in being totally absorbed in what you do at any given moment, no matter what your level of play.