Wednesday, June 26, 2013


Our next blog in the series of how to get out of your own way is on Ownership!  Owning your game is an important step toward possessing self-confidence on the course.  What does it mean to own your game?  This blog will be followed up with a stat sheet tomorrow to track your game and an Ownership Worksheet on Friday to help you set your goals.

Here are some outward signs of self-confidence.  Remember, 50% of our communication is non-verbal.
  • The ability to accept compliments and see them as affirmations to your hard work.
  • Calm acceptance of mistakes as simply that, mistakes.
  • Consistent body language that shows focus and engagement in your task. 
  • A pre and post shot routine that is consistent and measured.  
  • You are able to listen thoughtfully to criticism and use what will help while discarding unneeded advice.
Here are some outward signs that you lack self-confidence:
  • Mistakes lead to angry outbursts.
  • Poor results lead to poor body language.
  • You feel the need to explain/defend your actions.
  • You respond to criticism quickly and aggressively.

Here are some inward signs that you are confident:
  • Making decisions without worry of what others think.
  • The ability to commit to your decisions.
  • The willingness to sometimes take risks and accept consequences.
  • Setting goals based on success instead of the avoidance of failure.
  • You look forward to the next tournament round and the challenges it will hold.
Here are some inward signs that you lack self-confidence:
  • You are concerned about what others will think when they see your score posted.
  • You worry about an upcoming performance.
  • You cling to a perfectionist attitude to evaluate your performance.
  • You give yourself excuses for your mistakes. 
  • You complain about your bad luck or other examples of being a victim on the course.
Peanuts by Charles Schulz

Where do you see yourself in these examples?  How can you work to own your game?
  • Be the CEO of your golf game.  Know what your goals are and what you need to do to achieve them.
    • Keep track of statistics and use them to rely on strengths and work to offset weaknesses.
    • Have a voice in your instruction.  Ask questions to be clear on goals, plan and implementation.
    • Be clear on who is on your support team and keep them closely involved in your goals.
    • Take care of the little details needed to be successful.  Eat right, get your rest, stay fit and be prepared when you go to the course.  
    • Become an expert in your tools of the trade, your clubs.  Make sure they are right for you and stay in good shape.
  • Set goals that you can track and achieve to gain confidence in yourself.
    • Goals don't have to be based on physical things only.  Choose other ways to evaluate your game to track improvement.  For example, have a goal of a focused pre-shot routine and give yourself a tally for each routine that you achieved your goal.  
    • Work for steady improvement.
    • Celebrate when you achieve a goal with a ritual, such as an ice cream cone from your favorite place.  
  • Be yourself.  Be honest with yourself.  Keep perspective.  Don't use excuses.  Never be a victim to circumstances.  Don't allow others to do these things for you. 
    • Evaluate what you do by what is important to you.  Go back to the Define Yourself blog and remember what you chose as who you are as a player.  Remember to use those things to evaluate your performance.
    • Your behavior is more indicative of who you are than your score.  Remember that on good days and bad.  Does your character show on the golf course and how?
    • You are probably not as good as your best shot or as bad as your worst shot.  Keep your perspective in check.
    • Be authentic.  You are unique.  You can model others, but remember to mold yourself in your own way. It's okay to be different if you have a plan.
  • Find fun, passion and joy in the game.  Be grateful for your opportunities and talent.
    • Balance a serious approach with celebrations, awareness of beauty and camraderie.
    • Forgive yourself for mistakes and move on.  Dwelling is in the past and worry is in the future.  Be in your shoes where you are standing.
    •  Remember to acknowledge your opportunities and abilities daily.
  • Work as hard as you can to achieve your goals.
    • There is no substitute for hard work.
    • You are in total control of your work ethic.
    • By avoiding work, you provide yourself with an excuse for failure.  In the end, it is still failure.

    • Calvin and Hobbes by Bill Watterson

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