Here are some questions for young athletes to determine if you gave up today. Most young athletes think giving up means to quit trying, but it isn't based on trying or effort, it is based on belief. You are your own best or worst asset on the golf course. If you don't believe in yourself, your preparation or your abilities, then you have given up.
The idea of today's blog is to show you the choices you face throughout your day. All of us face these choices throughout our days in relationship to our goals and effort. We can commit to what we want and pay the price or we can give in to what is easy.
If you are a golfer, here are some questions to ask yourself about the choices you are making.
1. Did you warm-up for the round with the goal of getting loose and having a good day?
Did you go to the range or practice green and focus on bad shots, bad swings, poor tempo or pressure?
2. Did you decide what you would focus on throughout your round, such as target or tempo and stick with it?
Did you go to the first tee wondering what sort of day you would have and hoping it wasn't a bad one?
3. Did you decide what you wanted to do with each and every shot and commit to that decision and execute it?
Did you try not to miss the shot, not to hit into trouble or not to make mistakes?
4. Did you rely on your preparation and situations to choose your targets and create shots?
Did you over-analyze situations and try for perfection on your shots?
5. Did you forgive yourself for mistakes and focus on your ability to bounce back?
Did you beat yourself up for your mistakes and create more problems?
6. Did you appreciate the golf course, your fellow competitors, the beauty of the golf course, the birds in the sky and your chance to play golf?
Did you walk along wishing you were somewhere else, that the day was over and that the people you were playing with would just shut up?
7. Did you compete? Did you do as well as you could with each chance you were given?
Did you fail to focus on each shot, because it didn't really matter?
8. Did you have positive self-talk that got you pumped up and refocused?
Did you have negative self-talk that made you feel angry, sad and defeated?
9. Did you choose the fun of the challenge and know you were up to it?
Did you think you were unlucky and getting bad bounces and feeling powerless?
10. Did you believe in yourself?
Did you give up on yourself?
When I'm out recruiting, these are the things I'm looking for in players. It is tough to see from the outside, but body language, focus, routine, attitude, and bounce backs are good guides. If you can answer each question with the first option, you are a fighter. If not, you need to learn to be one. That is the only option if you want to be a player!