Tuesday, March 4, 2014

Coach, I Ran Out of Holes!

If I were to think of an attitude a coach would love to see on the golf course, it would be this - Coach, I ran out of holes!  Or how about - Hey Coach, watch this!  Those two sentences sum up what we want to see in our athletes.  The first indicates the golfer who has patience and the belief that she can do good things.  It also signifies a love for the game and the ability to continue to look forward.  The second attitude shows a player who is eager to show her skills; who isn't afraid to make a mistake and invites pressure.  If you are a young player, both would be great attitudes to adopt.

What is the opposite of the feeling that you ran out of holes?  It is the focus on what isn't happening for you.  It is a habit of being in the past or caught up in mistakes you've made.  If you are adding your score before you finish, you won't have the feeling of running out of holes.  If you quit believing in what is possible, you won't have the feeling of running out of holes.  If you aren't completely absorbed in the shot you are about to hit, you won't have the feeling of running out of holes. 

Wait, what?  We're on 18?  NOOOO!

The goal is simple, the execution of the goal is hard.  Give all you have to each shot.  Put your head, heart and soul into this one shot.  Let go of past mistakes.  Let go of fear.  Let go of distractions.  Let go of doubts.  Embrace focus.  Visualize the shot.  Feel yourself hitting it.  Believe it before you see it.  Have faith!

These are the things you need to hold on to if you want to walk off of #18 and say, Hey Coach, I ran out of holes out there!

How about the other attitude you can embrace, the "Hey, watch this!" attitude.  What does it mean?  If you embrace this attitude, you are loving the challenge of the shot.  You see each shot as an opportunity to show your skills.  You feel as though you have what it takes to rise to the occasion.  You understand that pressure is what makes the game fun and competition is why you play.  Your self belief leads to courage.

If you don't have the "Hey, watch this!" attitude, here is what you might be feeling on the golf course.  You might wonder if you can pull this shot off.  You might think about the fact that you haven't practiced this shot enough.  You might think of the things you don't want to happen with the shot.  You might think of what you should do with the shot instead of what you will do.  You might wonder how someone else would hit the shot.  You might think that failure to hit the shot well will lead to bad things, such as a high score, judgment by others, an indication of your weakness or a clear picture of you failings.  You might stand over the shot hoping it doesn't go into the water, the bunker or the woods. You feel fear of the unknown instead of love for the opportunity. 

The enemy of your great attitude is often your own expectations.   SHOULD is a dirty word in the golfer's vocabulary, yet our self-talk is littered with the word.  Your expectations can be built from anything; a great week of preparation, a successful tournament played last week, a great shot that settles close to the hole, a great drive that leaves a shot at your go-to wedge distance or a pairing in the final group of the day.  Yes, any good event can become a negative if you allow it to create expectations instead of merely thinking of it as a successful achievement.  Expectations are created when you carry the past with you and allow it to shape your future.


Expectations are also created when you lose your authentic self.  The idea that you can be perfect mentally and physically isn't realistic.  Learn to be yourself on the course, accept what you do and move on quickly.  Those are the keys to putting expectations behind you. The idea that you are entitled to a good score based on good ball striking or good preparation is one that will lead you to pouting, frowning and dwelling on what isn't happening.  The idea that your past achievements will reveal your future will cause you problems, too. It's up to you to create your game each and every time you step on the course.  Your score is as reliant on your attitude as it is your ball striking or putting.  Don't allow expectations to effect your attitude.

Your attitude is the one thing truly within your control on the golf course.  There are a million excuses for letting it slip.  You can use the weather, past results, a bad break or funny bounce, missed putts, lack of control over your ball flight, slow play, unfair officials, bad advice from your coach or caddy, lack of sleep, and on and on and on.  Or, you can choose to be enthusiastic, patient, positive, resilient, confident and accepting.  All of these are building blocks and together will form your character.  Your character will always be there for you, even on days when your ball striking has deserted you.  The next time you play an important round of golf, decide that your character will shine.  Put your head, heart and soul into each shot and be your authentic self!

Monday, March 3, 2014

Coach Brown

Tonight, we had the pleasure to talk with Coach Larry Brown.  One of the coolest things about being in Dallas is, we are in the midst of a lot of successful people.  It's up to me to invite these folks to share their ideas and secrets to greatness.  Amazingly, the more successful the person, the more they are willing to share.  There is something to be learned from that fact alone.

Coach Larry Brown is right here in the same building, Moody Coliseum and is in the midst of a successful season coaching the SMU Mustangs.  He is the only basketball coach to have won both an NCAA Championship (Kansas, 1988) and an NBA Championship (Detroit, 2004).  His resume is lengthy and impressive, so if you want to check it out, here is a link.  On Mondays, my goal is to introduce our players to greatness through speakers and embracing mental game goals.  When you are a young player, you often think that you either have "it" or you don't.  You think that talent matters more than anything and you constantly question your own talent.  When you start to meet people who have experienced success as Kathy Whitworth and Larry Brown have, you begin to hear things differently.  Instead of talent, you hear about the importance of hard work, character, love of practice, self-belief and gratitude for your God given gifts.  These are all the things that we have heard so far this year from both Kathy Whitworth and Coach Brown.

Coach Brown was very conversational with his talk with us.  He told us of his love of the game of golf.  Coach loves the fact that the responsibility for your score is completely on you.  He also said that he could never become a good golfer, because a single digit handicap would have indicated to his bosses that he wasn't spending enough time in the gym.  He then told a few stories about great golf matches he has played with people like Michael Jordan and Jerry West.  In 2004, Coach had the opportunity to address the U.S. Ryder Cup team along with Micheal Phelps.  One thing he noticed that year was the camaraderie he saw with the European team away from the golf course and the importance that played in the competition. Mostly though, Coach's conversation was about greatness, whether or not that was his aim.

He spoke of the greatness of Coach Dean Smith because of the goodness of the man.  He spoke of the greatness of Michael Jordan due to his competitiveness that lead to his work ethic.  He spoke of the greatness of Corey Pavin, whom he grew close with when both were at UCLA.  Pavin's greatness was grounded in his love of practice and his deep belief in himself.  He mentioned that a firm self-belief is a constant he sees in the greats.  They play with no fear of results, because they see themselves succeeding.  You could also tell that the relationships that Coach formed with these people were more important to him than the greatness achieved by them. 

He also talked about his career and his love of learning, teaching and coaching, especially coaching young players.  He didn't talk of his own success at all, even though he is arguably one of the most successful coaches of all time.  Instead, he sounded like any other coach; worried about preparation and puzzling over how to get the best from his team.

Coach Larry Brown with the 2013-14 SMU Women's Golf Team

The best part of his talk for me was when he talked about teams and the importance of being together and playing for each other.  He told stories of how average individuals came together and became great as a whole, because they meshed and believed in each other.  He also talked of how a player could be selfish and suck the energy from an entire team and change the trajectory of the team.  It might seem obvious that these things happen in basketball, which is a sport where all are reliant upon each other, but it isn't as obvious in golf.  However, it is every bit as important in golf in my experience.  Selfishness within the group will erode the success of a golf team, while playing for the team and giving all you have to each shot, because your teammates are depending on you, will take a team further than they ever imagined.

Pony Up, Coach Brown!

I've had a lot of role models and mentors in my life, but I'm pretty sure I've just been lucky to find another.  Coach Brown shows me that if I take care of myself physically, continue to learn and allow my passion for golf and coaching to be fed, I can be an effective coach for many years to come.  He talked of the fun he has with the players who want to be coached and I feel the same way.  Thank goodness most of my players respect what I have to offer and allow my leadership to help form their path, both in golf and in life.  It is for that reason that I do it.  Thanks to Coach Brown for sharing his experiences and philosophy with us!

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